As Our Relationship Progressed. Finding Balance and Trust.

July 23, 2019
#2

Gentle reader,

I have decided to use this format to pass on some of the wisdom about relationships that I have gained in my almost 63 years on this earth.

Plus, I will continue to present photos of my favorite person in the whole world.

My mother has been after me to write my memoirs. I feel that I don't have anything special to share. Maybe this is one way.

I will always link the previous posting so that you may go back and start at the beginning:

Have You Met Your Soulmate? I Have. Let Me Show You Nancy. 
Another slightly out of focus image of her in a cute sundress. Her late mother's Ford Fairmont in the background.
As I stated in the previous article, I had spent considerable time learning about myself and how to form and keep a happy relationship with another.

A book I came across back then is titled:

What Your Mother Couldn't Tell You and Your Father Didn't Know: Advanced Relationship Skills for Better Communication and Lasting Intimacy Hardcover – (which came out) October 20, 1994. By  John Gray (Author)

This book opened my eyes. There are SO many things in it that helped me to get a better grasp of the females, how they think, the things they expect from their men and so much more. If only real parents spoke to their kids about things like this! Just think how much lower the divorce rate might be if we went into relationships armed with foreknowledge?

I highly recommend getting a copy of that book. That information is directly from Amazon. The link is to books by him that Amazon carries.

The first time Nancy dressed up for a date, this is what she wore. As we say in the South, "She cleans up right nice."

We continued to move forward slowly in our relationship. Every time I was heading to her house, the anticipation I felt made me giddy. I kept a container of Tic Tacs in my car and popped on in my mouth as I neared her place.

What a wonderful feeling when someone is SO happy to see you! That feeling can be made to last. We've been married almost 24 years and it's still there.

Since her dad was into cars, he taught her how to do maintenance on her Falcon and later cars. She taught her daughters (well, we both did) how to work on their own cars as well. There are so many things that need to be taught to kids, that almost NO one does.
These shots are from a antique car show we attended. She is always willing to let me capture her image.
Although she couldn't believe that I found (and still do!) her beautiful. We are our worst critic. 
My Epson photo scanner has the ability to remove dust while scanning, I did not know prior to starting this project that I had to tell it to do so. Thus the obvious dust on this photo.

There is one thing two people should NOT do: Rush their relationship. There is plenty of time to get to the fun, physical stuff. Take your time, get to know each other.
IF you truly want your relationship to last, you must make efforts to get to know your love interest. Find out their interests and dislikes. And remember them.
Ask them questions. Find out what they enjoy doing and take an active interest in those things too.  You just might find out they interest you too.
It's far too easy to talk about oneself. Nothing makes one feel better than someone asking THEM questions. 
How excited did you get when you found out some new friend shared the same interests that you had?
It applies much more in an intimate relationship. 

As I stated in the last chapter, we became friends without the specter of physicality being present in our minds. Obviously we were attracted to each other.
We are truly each other's best friend. There is NO one else I'd rather spend time with than she. And she feels the same way about me.
This is one of my favorite pictures of Nancy. Yes, she is a tree hugger.  It was the first one I had enlarged to 8x10 and framed.
Those are sunglasses on her head. Something she wore a lot back in the early days. I am often reminding her that her eyes are the only ones she's ever going to have, so please protect them.
A different time of year, same park, I believe. This time she's just a tree leaner. I love how the sun highlights her hair.
I have shoe boxes full of envelopes with negatives from my film years. All carefully organized chronologically. What camera was used, etc. See? OCD has some good uses. 

I am going to close this one now. I think I have given you somethings to think about. It's never to late.

Scott

July 23, 2019

#2 

 

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